Inurnment

[myfs_160633]

Hello Master,

The urn of my father's ashes will be deposited into the niche soon. After more than 10 years.   The niche is for 4 urns.   Im worried about putting him in a niche for four urns, 

Like the niche is waiting for 3 more urns.    Is it better if we put him in a niche just for one? 

Also, do we need to put inside?  I plan to fillit up with his clothes and other mementos so there's no space.

 

Thank you very much!

[Cecil Lee]

These are some considerations:

1. Once cremated the ashes remains "neutral" or "ashes to ashes". Thus, there is no concern even if urns are stacked 12 storeys high etc... Or placed in a one, two or four person's niche.

2. For eg. there are a few millionaires or past millionaires who were buried at the Gardens of Remembrance at Jurong (Christian) where the family of the deceased bought four niches.

2.1. And they erected a large plague to cover the entire 2 by 2 niches with that huge plague.

3. If your concern is more "under Symbolism" and the notation that it is inauspicious to have 3 more niches "READY" then this has nothing to do with Para 1 to 2.1.

4. Para 3 has more to do with human factors.

4.1. Traditionally, there is a family matriarch to consult with for such matters. And if e.g. the grand mother says okay, then go ahead with it.

4.2. Thus even if one does not have a family matriarch; do get feedback from family members: "Are they okay with this?" If so, then, go ahead with it.

4.3. Since the niche is large; yes, by all means place whatever meaningful items in the niche.

5. In essence, if after everything done; and if one still really feels not "right" then do go ahead and get a single niche.  As one should never be made to carry the "burden" of thinking ... more.. as this world is already... stressful for most of us.

[myfs_160633]

Thank you Master for replying as always! You are very helpful.   

More blessing to you!