Death in family. Wedding How?

[myfs_107568]

Hello Master Lee,
My husband (hb)'s uncle just passed away. This uncle is his father's younger brother.
Before his uncle passed away, my hb and I were already deciding to hold our customary wedding. However, his uncle's departure was too sudden.
Just in case this information is needed, my hb and family (father, mother and sister) are NOT living together with the deceased uncle.
1.) When can we hold our customary wedding?
2.) From a taiwan television programme, a feng shui master mentioned that although the traditional culture is that to hold a customary wedding WITHIN 100 days after the funeral, he advised NOT to do so. This is because holding a wedding WITHIN 100 days is harmful to the bridegroom. The master said that in many years of his many years of encounters, many men who married WITHIN the 100 days after the funeral -- die young (before 50).
He advised to hold the customary wedding 1 year after the funeral.
Do you know if it is possible to hold wedding AFTER 100 days of the funeral, but BEFORE 1 year?
I do not want anything bad to happen to my hb.
3.) Any other information provided much appreciated. Thank you very much. If you need more information, please let me know.
Thank you very much.
Best Regards.

[Robert Lee]

Hi Fenger,

In our Traditional Chinese custom, usually when there is a death in the family, most people will not wish to hold any marriage at least not after 100 days. It is generally considered inauspicious to do so.

The actual length of period that most people will avoid having a marriage in the family really depends on your own traditional believes / superstitions. There are some people who will avoid having a marriage for a year, some even 3 years. So it is very difficult to put an actual figure as to the actual length that you must have before any marriage is held. It all depends on the individual. This has more to do with Chinese Believes and Supersitions.

Take the Westerners for example, they can even get married a day/week after the funeral procession. It does not bother them at all. Which is why I say that this has to do with Chinese Believes and Superstitions.

But for practical reaons, I think in modern society, no one will want to wait 1 or 3 years before getting married. So normally, it is quite acceptable to the Chinese that as long as it is after 100 days, it should be ok have a marriage.

But ultimately, it depends on you and your family (especially your elders like your parents/grandparents on how may days apart before they are comfortable to have a marriage.)

Hope that helps.

Warmest Regards
Robert Lee
GEOMANCY.NET - Center for Applied Feng Shui

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On 11/8/2004 7:08:22 AM, Anonymous wrote:

Hello Master Lee,



My husband (hb)'s uncle just

passed away. This uncle is his

father's younger brother.



Before his uncle passed away,

my hb and I were already

deciding to hold our customary

wedding. However, his uncle's

departure was too sudden.



Just in case this information

is needed, my hb and family

(father, mother and sister)

are NOT living together with

the deceased uncle.





1.) When can we hold our

customary wedding?





2.) From a taiwan television

programme, a feng shui master

mentioned that although the

traditional culture is that to

hold a customary wedding

WITHIN 100 days after the

funeral, he advised NOT to do

so. This is because holding a

wedding WITHIN 100 days is

harmful to the bridegroom. The

master said that in many years

of his many years of

encounters, many men who

married WITHIN the 100 days

after the funeral -- die young

(before 50).



He advised to hold the

customary wedding 1 year after

the funeral.



Do you know if it is possible

to hold wedding AFTER 100 days

of the funeral, but BEFORE 1

year?



I do not want anything bad to

happen to my hb.





3.) Any other information

provided much appreciated.

Thank you very much. If you

need more information, please

let me know.



Thank you very much.



Best Regards.

[Cecil Lee]

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